How To Regain Motivation And Get Over A Funk

– Hey Pash Fam, it’s Paula and today, I’m going to be telling you six steps to help you get over a funk. I want to say that getting
over a funk is not easy and although I’m giving you six steps, they don’t necessarily
have to be in order. You can start with three, go back to one, and then go to five. It’s all up to you, but
this was just the process that made the most sense to me. What is a funk? A funk is basically this
feeling of being lethargic and apathetic and you
can’t really explain it. You’re feeling unmotivated
and unproductive and it slowly but surely
takes over your life. Hopefully, with these six steps, no matter what order
you choose to do them, will help you get back on track. I know that it certainly
helped me in times of stress and I wanna be honest with all of you that this is something that I recently went through, so that’s why
I’m sharing it with you. I would never give
advice that I personally would not take myself. Without further ado,
let’s get right into it. The first step is to name
it and when my friend, Rica, told me about this, this
step, I was sort of confused. I was like, I have no
idea what that means, but over time, it makes complete sense because a funk, you don’t
really know where it comes from or it really can’t be explained. All you know is that
it has power over you, but giving it a name or
knowing where it stems from is one step closer to giving you the power and ownership and
responsibility over the funk. For example, the most recent one I had, which was literally yesterday, but the name that I gave
it was the this is my, I’m still getting used to
living in San Diego funk. That’s the thing about funks, everything can be going
right in your life. I love working here at Passion Planner. I’m now a lot closer to my boyfriend, who I lived 100 miles away from before and I have family and friends who love me. But funks can still happen, even when things are going great. I think being able to make
peace with the fact that I still am getting
comfortable with being here was really liberating
experience because I got to take ownership over my own feelings. Something else that I wanna mention, we posted this on Instagram the other day and somebody said, “What
if I can’t name it?” That is a completely reasonable question. I wasn’t able to name this funk for weeks and not being able to
name it is probably one of the biggest struggles,
but the response that I find helped me the most is maybe don’t identify or name the funk just yet, but just name the feeling and start there. Sometimes, naming the
feelings is a hard thing in itself, so start small and be compassionate with yourself. It will take some time. Funks don’t heal overnight. The second step is to feel the funk. Usually for me, funks, or
the apathy or being lethargic is actually a symptom of a
deeper emotion or feeling. For me, recently, I am
still getting used to living in San Diego funk was me actually
feeling pretty depressed. And I work with a
therapist pretty frequently and when she named this feeling
for me, it was shocking. But there was a sense
of a weight being lifted because when you’re experiencing a feeling and you don’t know what it
is, it really takes over you and has a lot of control over you. When you suppress the
feeling, at least for me, it just festers and grows
and it ends up impacting your every day actions
and every day behaviors. It can impact your
relationships, how you engage or connect with people at work, and I know for me that was definitely how it was manifesting. I wasn’t able to be present in a lot of conversations and my mind was never, never present and I was always anxious. And when I finally made
peace with the fact that, okay, maybe I am feeling depressed, it was freeing even though it was hard. That’s something else I wanna stress, too, is that something can be freeing
but it can still be hard. And take ownership over that. Healing is slow and it’s never easy but it’s always worth it. The third step is to talk about it. Don’t just talk about it with anybody. I think it’s important to identify people who you really trust,
people who are really gonna hear you and sit
with you in your funk. I like to choose people who I know are not going to silver line my suffering. I know there’s always a
positive way of looking at things, but when you’re in a funk, especially in a deep one and
you’re feeling really stuck, I think you’re looking for
people really to just hear you and listen to you as
opposed to find a solution for what you’re going through. Honestly, this is probably
one of the hardest parts of this process for me. I sometimes feel really
uncomfortable with asking for help and sharing my feelings with other people, but in order to have authentic
connections with people, I really need to learn
how to be vulnerable. And if any of you are fans of Renee Brown, she is all about how asking
for help and vulnerability is not a weakness, it’s a
strength and it just helps to build genuine connections
with other people. The fourth step is to get inspired. And basically, this is
just what do you need in order to make a mindset shift? You might need something different. Some people are inspired by results, so seeing people who are
happy and that’s great. I, personally, am inspired
by people who are in process, so who don’t necessarily
have things figured out, but they’re sharing their
process with other people because they’re okay with being imperfect and okay with being incomplete. Especially when I’m going through a funk, I really admire those people
for being straight forward about not having it all figured out. But the things is, when
you’re going through it, it can be tough because you
lock yourself in your room or you isolate yourself or whatever makes you feel like, whatever, I don’t care. Or at least that’s how I am. I found that what helps me,
in terms of a mindset shift is, and this is gonna
sound super cheesy, but, I am really excited to some day be a mom and the mindset shift
that really worked to help me get out of this past
funk that I’ve been in is treating myself like I
would treat my future daughter and to ask myself is
this how I would treat my future daughter or is this how I would talk to my future daughter? And, it was a complete 180. It was so different because,
I think when I’m in a funk, I kind of just wanna isolate myself and the self love and the self compassion, basically, isn’t there. But when I personified
myself as my future daughter, it radically changed the
way that I saw myself. I really think that
how I raise my daughter in the future is going to be
how I raise myself right now. Maybe that gives you food for thought, but whatever perspective
or shift in mindset works for you, just
take it and run with it and hopefully, the funk
will be gone in no time. The fifth step is to
start with one small thing or one small habit. For me, it’s been journaling. I made it a point that even
though I was feeling like crap, I was going to journal every single day if that was the only thing
that I did for the day. And I actually learned this
tip from one of the Pash Fam. Her name is Connor, but
she talks about using the Seinfeld Method in
order to continue a habit, especially when it’s hard. In my Passion Planner, I
used the monthly layout to create an X every time I journaled and it’s really motivating
to see basically the string of journaling that I had done and I have never broken the chain. And basically, that’s the whole
point of the Seinfeld Method is that you just don’t break the chain. And that keeps you motivated to keep going and stay on track with your habits. For me, it’s journaling
but I think it’s also knowing what environments
are exacerbating your funk or exacerbating the
feeling of feeling stuck. If you’re anything like me,
I tend to hold myself in my bedroom and I don’t
leave and I don’t go outside and I’m basically in darkness
just watching Netflix. But if you know that a certain environment is not good for you, your
one small step can be I’m gonna go outside today, even if it’s just for a little walk. I am a big believer that
it’s really the small things that make big change, so
whatever that small thing is for you, do it with
conviction and make sure it’s something that you can commit to. Don’t start off too big. If it doesn’t work out,
then you may be discouraged, but I think the small
things really do help. The sixth and final step is
to call in reinforcements which basically means just
asking for help again. I’ve mentioned before
that I see a therapist. I actually message a threapist. I use the Talkspace app. But I do know that therapy
is not necessarily accessible to everybody, whether
that’s financial burden or there are just no
therapists in your area or the therapists in your
area are not really resonating with you, which has happened to me before. But I think the thing that’s key here is community and finding
people who are gonna make you feel good about you,
but are also gonna hold you accountable to
getting out of your funk. These are people who
are going to be gentle and loving and kind towards you, but also know about the
power of your potential and are going to commit
to helping you get there even if it means they have
to drag you out of bed. Those, I think, are
the people who I really depend on in my life. I am hopeful that each
and every one of you has a person like that in yours. If therapy or community
is not accessible to you, there are actually tons of therapists and people who are wellness advisors who are content creators on
YouTube and on Instagram. I think it’s important
that if you can’t get that one on one interaction
with a professional, that you’re still hearing from them through the content that you consume. Whether it’s through your
friends, your family, your therapist or people
online how inspire you, I just encourage you to
seek help when you need it and know that it’s okay to ask for help and it’s not a weakness. This topic is really
close to my heart because it’s something that I
personally went though when I was writing the blog. I tried to create content
that is applicable in my own life because
it feels authentic to me and when we posted the six
steps to get over a funk on Instagram and Facebook,
it really resonated with a lot of people. And if you’re one of
those folks who saw that or are watching this video
and are experiencing some of the feelings that I described, just know that you’re not alone and the Pash Fam is here for you. It really is a process. Be okay with where you are
and next thing you know, you’ll be able to look
back and thank yourself for all of the work
you did to get yourself to where you are now. Feel free to share in the
comments any particular content creators who inspire
you to get over a funk or any articles, anything
else inspiring that you feel like the rest of the
Pash Fam can benefit from. Leave it in the comments below. I’m sure somebody will be able to benefit from that information. Thank you so much for watching this video and not just hearing
these tips and taking time to take care of yourself, but
also time to hear my story. It’s always great to share our experiences with one another. And just remember, we’re
all in this together. So like, comment, and
subscribe so that we can all continue on in this journey. But until then, I’ll see
you in the next video. Bye. (lively music)